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You're not alone Domestic violence should not happen to anyone. But it does-and when it does, there is help.
St. Joseph Mercy Oakland is committed to the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being of our community. That is why we have included information on domestic violence and resources to get help.

You need to remember two things. First, battering is never okay. Second, you're not alone.

Domestic violence is a learned pattern of behaviors used by one person in a relationship to control the other person. The partners may be married, living together, separated or dating.

Examples of domestic violence are:

  • Emotional abuse through mind games, name-calling or put-downs.
  • Isolation from family or friends.
  • Economic abuse by withholding money or preventing from getting or holding a job.
  • Actual or threatened physical harm.
  • Sexual assault.
  • Stalking.
  • Intimidation.

Anyone can be a victim. Your age, sex, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, education, employment or martial status does not matter. Although both men and women can be abused, the vast majority of victims are women. Children in homes where there is domestic violence are more likely to be abused or neglected. Most children in abusive homes are aware of the violence and may suffer long-term emotional and behavioral problems.

Where to go for Help

  • HAVEN Shelter and Support: (248) 334-1274
  • Common Ground Sanctuary Shelter and Support: (800) 231-1127

What can I do to be safe?

  • Call the police-If you feel you are in immediate danger from your abuser, call 911 or your local police.
  • Get support from friends and family-Tell your supportive family, friends, and co-workers what has happened.
  • Find a safe place-It's not fair. You should not have to leave your home because of your abuser's behavior, but sometimes it's the only way you'll be safe. There are shelters throughout the country that can help you relocate. HAVEN can put you in touch with them.
  • Get medical help-If you have been injured, go to the emergency room or urgent care center, or see your doctor. Advocates are available through the emergency room for support. Advocates are people sympathetic to your situation and are there to support you.
  • Get a personal protection order-For more information about personal protection orders, please visit site
  • Make a safety plan-Figure out what to do before or when the next attack happens. For more information about safety plans, please visit site